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Twelve Phases of Transition

Help For Mom

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Nadine from Leominster, MA, asked:

Hi Julie,

I was lucky to have found you and your podcast when I happened upon an interview with Jan Engels-Smith.  Thank you for the work you do.

My mother will be 94 in June and has a host of pretty severe medical issues. I understand she is preparing to pass on, but I don’t understand why she has to suffer so excruciatingly. On top of everything she has been through, she just was just diagnosed with shingles. 

Can you possibly connect with her and send her whatever healing she needs so she can enjoy whatever time she chooses to have left? She lives in Bradenton, FL. 

I cannot express how special my mother is, and I know I can only do so much.

Thank you for any assistance you can offer.

Hi Nadine,

Thanks for your note and kind comments.

I’m so sorry to hear your mother is suffering.

To get some information for you, I first energetically connected to you and from you to her.

Your mom is in Phase 7 of the Twelve Phases of Transition® which means she is in the active dying phase.

She is surrounded by angels and the spirits of deceased loved ones and pets. For more information on this end-of-life scenario, please read or listen to my book Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This Life Into The Next.

Please consider downloading the Twelve Phases chart and save it on your phone. When you want an update, just ask (either aloud or in your head) as to what Phase of Transition your mom’s in. An answer will immediately come in as a thought in your head. Refer to the chart.

As for the suffering part, I suggest you consider engaging a hospice agency. They’ll be able to manage your mom’s pain and provide the medical support she needs. In addition, the hospice staff will assist you and your family as you take care of your mother.

Lastly, I sent calming, healing energy to your mom. Hope it helps.

 

 

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Forgiveness Requested

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Elaine from Raleigh, NC, asked:

Hi Julie,

My parents passed away within 10 months of each other.

My father’s passing was difficult for my mother. She had Covid and even though she thought she’d recover, she wanted to be with my father in Heaven.

The pandemic prevented valuable family moments. I couldn’t travel to see my parents before they became ill and I regret not spending more time with them.

At the end, I was able to be with my mother at the hospital when she told the nurses that my father and some angels were around her.

I now know my mom was not alone while passing to the spiritual world. She was with my dad, angels, her parents, and other family members.

Did she suffer while in the hospital? Is she now reunited with my father like she wanted?

Please ask my mom to forgive me for not going to visit when she asked me to and tell both of my parents that I miss them every day and love them.

Thanks,

Elaine

Hi Elaine,

My sincere condolences on the passing of your parents.

You are absolutely right in believing your parents were surrounded by angels and the spirits of deceased loved ones and pets as they transitioned. In fact, no one dies alone.

That’s what I discuss in my book Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This Life Into The Next and it’s validated and corroborated by many healthcare, hospice, and funeral professionals. In addition, Christopher Kerr, MD, found close to 90% of end-of-life patients report seeing the spirits of deceased loved ones and pets in Death Is But A Dream.

Regarding your questions:
– Yes, your mother is now reunited with your dad and all deceased family members, friends, and pets.
– Yes, she did suffer in the hospital and appreciates the care she received.

As for your parents forgiving you for not spending more time with them, they said there wasn’t anything to forgive. They wanted you to know they’re always around you and your family and that they love you very much.

To help you heal, you may want to write a letter (using a pen and paper) to your parents and mention everything you’ve been feeling about your limited time with them and their passing. Include every thought and emotion you can think of and forget about spelling, grammar, etc. Just let your thoughts flow into the words you put on paper.

Once finished, take the letter outside and burn it. Watch the smoke rise toward Heaven and scatter the cooled ashes in your garden knowing your parents are receiving this special gift from you.

I believe you’ll find this exercise to be comforting, healing, and emotionally joyful.

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Educate and Comfort

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Shari from Columbus, OH, asked:

Hi Julie,

I read your book Angelic Attendants and it is excellent!

I was by my mother’s side when she transitioned 21 years ago and it was actually a beautiful experience.

I sense her around me all the time and her spirit even showed up in a picture taken of me and my family four years after she passed away! I will treasure this picture forever.

For years, I’ve been wanting to reach out to other people to comfort them after their loved one has passed and let them know their spirit can still be present with them even when they are no longer in the physical world. Alas, I have no idea how to do this.

Any suggestions?

Thank you for taking time to read and answer my question.

Sincerely,

Shari

Hi Shari,

Thanks for your kind comments and for reading Angelic Attendants.

Love the story about your mom’s spirit showing up in your family photo several years after she passed. What a great example of your mother letting you know she’s around you.

Regarding your desire to help comfort and educate those who’ve lost a loved one, I have several suggestions:

– Volunteer with a hospice organization.

– Get involved in grief support groups at local churches, hospitals, senior centers, and online.

– Gift a book on the topic. Two favorites are my Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This Life Into The Next and Death Is But A Dream by Christopher Kerr, MD, PhD.

– Send people a link to my interview with Dr. Chris Kerr. It’s enlightening, heartwarming, and validates how spirits surround end-of-life patients.

– Consider taking my Angelic Attendant Training and learn to telepathically communicate with the dying person and tell how close to passing they are by identifying the Twelve Phases of Transition®. The information you’ll receive can be enormously helpful and comforting to the family.

Hope you find these ideas thought-provoking.

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Angels Around Mom

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Ryann from Richmond, VA, asked:

Hello Julie,

My mother is suffering from early onset Alzheimer’s and has been in hospice for almost 2.5 years. She lost her eyesight, almost all her memory, and barely speaks anymore. She is young (69), but looks 20 years older than her biological age.

My mom hasn’t had any quality of life since she went into hospice. She lives in a dark, dingy, nursing home where she is being kept alive without any stimulation.

Our situation has been very painful because of how long she and my family have been in this holding pattern.

I’m wondering if you could scan her and tell me what phase of transition she is in, whether she is ready to pass, and if there is anything we can do to help her let go.

Her name is Debbie and she lives in Deerfield, IL.

I am so grateful for any insight you can share.

Sincerely,

Ryann

Hi Ryann,

Love your name!

So sorry to hear about your mom.

To get some information for you, I first connected with you in Virginia and then from you to your mother in Illinois.

At the time of this writing, she is in Phase 7 of the Twelve Phases of Transition®. This means she is surrounded by angels, and the spirits of deceased loved ones and pets.

Everyone goes through the Twelve Phases of Transition® regardless if they pass instantly like in the case of a homicide or suicide, or over a long period of time including days, weeks, months, or like your mom, years.

I asked your mom my standard three questions …

Are you ready to go? She said, “YES”.

Are you in pain? She said, “NO”.

What do you need? She said, “To see the sunlight”.

It’s easy to find out where your mom is in her leaving process. Just ask, “What Phase of Transition is my mom in?” You’ll get an answer in your head within a second. When the thought is immediate, you’ll know it’s from Spirit. Then, just refer to the chart on my website and you’ll have an illustration to guide you.

When your mom seems to be advancing through the Phases quickly, you’ll know to gather any family or friends that want to see her before she passes.

Always keep in mind, as we’re dying, your mom (and all of us), are surrounded by angels, and deceased loved ones. Knowing this adds a glorious component to what is usually a heart-wrenching situation.

Sending lots of hugs your way!

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Dying Wishes

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Estelle from Manchester, England, asked:

Hi Julie,

I am 27 years old and I’m currently facing stage 4 terminal cancer.

Firstly, could you please send some healing energy my way?

Also, can you please help me meet my spirit guides to aid me in this journey? I think I have met one but would like to hear from you about my guides if possible.

Lastly could you send a message to my grandma and Uncle Steve and ask them to watch over me, my husband and beautiful baby girl through this time in our lives?

Thank you so much!

Estelle

Hi Estelle,

Thanks for your note.

To help you in your journey, I energetically connected to you and saw you’re in Phase 7 of the Twelve Phases of Transition®. This means you have begun the transition to Heaven and are surrounded by angels and the spirits of deceased loved ones (including your grandma and Uncle Steve) and pets.

Everyone goes through all the Twelve Phases regardless of how they pass. It can happen instantly, take days, weeks, months or even years. And, you can completely withdraw from the Phases. I’ve seen people in Phase 11 decide to live and go on to experience a long life.

Having said all that, I’m unable to do a medical scan on you while you’re in the Phases since your spirit is out of your body. (Our spirit acts as the power source for the body.) I did, however, send healing energy to you.

Please remember, everything can be healed and a healing can take many forms. Sometimes, death is the healing.

As for your spirit guides, we normally have seven with us at any given time. You have 17 and they’re dispersed in the crowd of deceased loved ones around you!

Your main spirit guide’s name is David and you can chat with him anytime you wish. Just say something to him either aloud or in your head. His answer will immediately come in and will feel like a thought in your head. You’ll know it’s him when you get a response within a second.

I’m forwarding copies of my books Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This Life Into The Next and my children’s books Angel Messages For Kids and Angel Messages For Dogs. In addition, you may want to watch my interview with hospice director Dr. Chris Kerr whose research shows loved ones’ spirits surrounding people at the end of their lives.

Hope this information provides some comfort to you and your family.

Sending big hugs and lots of love from Sweet Home Alabama!

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Angels and Dementia

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Rebecca from Buckinghamshire, England, asked:

Hi Julie,

My mother is in the very late stages of dementia and is bed bound. I care for her at home. 

She sleeps most of the day, but when she’s awake, she often has conversations with people I can’t see. Sometimes she mentions them by name and smiles and laughs. I cannot understand the conversations as she’s no longer very coherent. My mother also gasped at seeing our old pet dog, “Henry!” This is all from a woman who can no longer give names in “normal” conversation.

It brings me great comfort, as I think she’s obviously straddling different realms. She’s been seeing these visitors for quite a few months. At times she seems to look in awe (possibly angels?). 

Do you know how the transitions work with dementia? 

I have a private reading booked with you but it’s not until January. 

Many thanks for your time.

Rebecca

Hi Rebecca,

Thanks for your note about your mom seeing angels, deceased relatives, and pets. I too find it comforting that we’re all surrounded by these spiritual entities as we transition from this life to Heaven.

Having dementia is of no consequence to the Twelve Phases of Transition™ process.

It has been my experience we all go through the Twelve Phases of Transition™ as we’re dying. This is the case regardless of whether we die instantly like in a homicide or suicide, or like your mom, over a prolonged period of time. 

What may often be interpreted as a symptom of dementia or a hallucination, seeing deceased loved ones in dreams or visions at the end of life has now been validated with university-based research.

In his book Death Is But A Dream, Dr. Chris Kerr, a hospice director, reports his research showed close to 90% of the 1,400 patients studied reported just that.

In my Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This Life Into The Next, I describe in detail how we’re surrounded by angels and deceased loved ones and pets as we’re dying.

My book addresses what your mom is experiencing from the spiritual perspective while Dr. Kerr’s book discusses the same findings from a medical/research point of view.

Your mom is currently in Phase 7 of the Twelve Phases of Transition™. She tells me she isn’t ready to go, isn’t in pain, and just wants to spend a bit more time with her family.

Hope this information provides some additional comfort to you as you go through this time. Look for little miracles along the way. You’ve been given one already just knowing your mom is surrounded by angels and deceased loved ones.

P.S. – Regarding our January appointment, periodically check for earlier appointments by clicking on the “reschedule” button on your confirmation email. Clients often reschedule.

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Angels, Spirits, Transition

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Suz from East Hanover, NJ, asked:

Hi Julie,

Can someone be in the middle of the twelve phases and actively be living their lives, like going on errands and doing chores?

Love your show!

Thanks,

Suz

Hi Suz,

First, thanks for your kind comments about my show. I love doing it.

Second, what a great question about the Twelve Phases of Transition™.

Everyone goes through a process I call the Twelve Phases of Transition when they die. It involves a configuration of angels and the spirits of deceased loved ones and pets and changes as we approach death. This occurs whether we die instantly like in the case of a homicide or suicide or whether we take days, weeks, months or even years to pass.

If we remember time doesn’t exist in the spirit world, (it’s a human creation), it’s easier to wrap our heads around this concept.

Having said all that, yes, it’s entirely possible to be living life to the fullest and then transition. Happens all the time.

In addition, it’s also possible to move backwards from advanced phases of transition and to even decide to live.

My brother’s friend was in Phase 11 and I fully expected him to quickly pass. His spirit had other ideas because he healed and is still living … 15 years later!

Hay House founder Louise Hay had the right idea when she said, “Happy, Healthy, Dead”!

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Spirit Locations

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Mel from Colfax, CA, asked:

Hi Julie,

First off, thank you for all your amazing words of wisdom. I’m so grateful you have come into my life. 

My question is, what happens when our spirit wants to incarnate back into the human form on earth? 

Since the spirits of our loved ones are there at the time of our death to welcome and help us transition to heaven, can a spirit be in heaven and earth at the same time?

Or, will we not see them when we die because they have chosen to incarnate into another human life? 

Is it our destiny to always continue to incarnate?

Thanks, and many blessings and hugs to you,

Mel

Hi Mel,

What a great question!

It’s my understanding and belief that we all decide where, when, to whom and the circumstances into which we’re born. That’s so our lives are on a trajectory to explore and experience what it is our spirit wanted to in this lifetime.

Regarding your question about how our deceased loved ones can be present when we’re dying even if they’ve reincarnated, it’s also my understanding and belief that spirits can be many places at the same time.

The Bible says, “God is spirit” (John 4:24) and “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness” (Genesis 1:26). Although many people interpret these verses to mean God looks like a human, (an old man resembling Father Time – long white hair and beard), I believe they mean we humans are like God in spirit form.

Therefore, if God can be everywhere at the same time and we’re made in His image and likeness, it’s feasible our spirits can also be everywhere at the same time, even in multiple lifetimes.

As for destiny, our spirits incarnate to experience and explore what it’s like to be a human as many times as we want. It’s always our spirit’s choice.

Hope my understanding of these topics help clarify things for you. For more information, please read or listen to my book Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This Life Into The Next.

One thing I know for sure is, we’ll all find out the answers to your questions when we die and transition back into spirit form.

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A Mother’s Love

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Kristie from Hyde Park, MA, asked:

Hi Julie,

I recently saw you on the “Helping Parents Heal” Zoom meeting. Listening to you was very helpful and I look forward to reading your book. Thank you for all that you do to help people heal. You are truly amazing.

I am wondering if my son is still angry with me in the spirit world. We were not on the best of terms when he was murdered because I asked him to leave our home. He was bi-polar and unmedicated, with addiction/alcohol abuse issues and I hadn’t spoken to him in about 7 months.

He was shot in the head and remained in the SICU for 2 weeks and 1 day and because of the pandemic, we were not able to be by his side as often as we wanted. The hospital staff would call us in when they thought he wasn’t going to make it. 

Thankfully, we were there when he passed away and I was able to tell him how much I loved him. I also told him I was sorry and that I had always loved him and would continue to love him right up until my last breath and beyond.

He was heavily sedated so I don’t know if he even heard me or knew that my husband and I were there. Now my beautiful boy is gone from this Earth. I would give anything to be able to speak to him and let him know how much he was loved and how much I miss him.

Thank you,

Kristie

Hi Kristie,

Thanks for sharing your comments about the love you have for your son. My condolences to you and your family on his passing.

Regarding your questioning if he is angry with you in the spirit world, when I asked him, his answer was an instant NO!

He also told me he knows you love and miss him and wants you to know he’s frequently around you.

All spirits are pure love and that includes your precious son. Any so-called “negative” personality traits remain with the body when someone dies.

Please remember, we all choose when we go, who’s with us when we go, and the circumstances that surround our deaths. Your son chose to have you and your husband with him when he passed. In addition, he was surrounded by lots of angels and the spirits of many deceased family, friends and animals. That scenario is a testament to the love you felt for your son and the love he felt for YOU!

Lastly, you can talk with him anytime you like. Just say something to him either aloud or in your head and he’ll instantly respond. It’ll seem like it’s your thought. How you know it’s from him is, his answer will come into your head within a second. If it takes longer, that’ll be your brain answering you.

Practice talking with him and pay attention to the answers you receive. The more you do it, the more validation you’ll get and that’ll give you confidence. Before long, communicating with your son will be second nature to you.

Hope you find comfort in this information and from my book Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This World Into The Next.

Sending big hugs your way!

 

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