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Julie Ryan

Stuck Life

Michele from Durban, South Africa, asked:

Hi Julie, 

How do I get out of being stuck behind what seems like a wall?

I want to get to the other side, but I seem to be “held back” and unable to move forward.

Even though I know what I need to do, this is causing me to vibrate at such a low level it’s causing me great discomfort and health issues.

Thanks,

Michele

Hi Michele,

Being stuck is an experience just about all of us have felt at some point during our lives and it’s all about fear. Fear to take a chance on something.

What if you make the wrong choice? What if it hurts you or someone you love? What if … The “what if’s” are endless.

Humans are hardwired for fear. We’re constantly looking for that saber-toothed tiger planning to eat us for lunch. Have you ever encountered a saber-toothed tiger? Me neither, and that’s the point. Most of the things we worry about never happen or happen in a way that’s non-threatening.

The key is, to understand anything that won’t kill you in the next two minutes, is an irrational fear and is false.

Once you show your brain something is fake, it lessens the negative emotion (fear) associated with it and allows you to move forward.

So, take a baby step towards your desire and then take another one. Step by step, you’ll get to where you want to go.

Oh, and if you want to enjoy the journey, be open to how it’ll unfold. That’s when the magic happens. 

Good luck!

 

2 thoughts on “Stuck Life”

  1. HI Julie–

    Speaking of tigers jumping out at you… this puts you into Fight or flight mode– activates your sympathetic response…
    blood rushes to your legs, your eyes dilate to get you out of danger. But —NO blood to the brain. You need to react without thinking.
    and what you do so well is to calm people down– put them into parasympathetic.
    This is rest and digest mode– tend and befriend– your Brain DOES get blood– so you can think clearly.

    But– I just found out about the Polyvagal Theory– and another way that people can get stuck in Freeze mode. Its the body taking over to shut down to concerve energy once you are caught — you play dead– again– No blood to the brain.
    I think this is where we all are collectively right now in the Pandemic.
    The Biology behind the Polyvagal Theory is a great subject for you to consider expanding on for those who feel lack of motivation right now. It is their body taking over into Freeze after Fight or Flight has left them brain dead.
    Lots of Parasympathetic nurturing needs to happen to get back into balance– and that is what you are so good at.
    I do a parasympathetic breathing practice that works very well– a longer exhale– deep belly breaths. Its on my website,
    Teach us– so we can learn! You are a medical intuitive. : )
    In appreciation…
    Nancy

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