Diana from Sydney, Australia, asked:
Hi Julie,
My amazing father left us earth side in February 2020. I miss him every day and feel both pain and love in my heart every time I think about him.
It was in his passing that I also started my incredible spiritual journey and learned to love myself again and experience true joy and happiness.
As the Selena Gomez song goes, “I needed to lose you (dad) to love me”, and, I can’t help but feel guilty at times for thinking this way. How can I possibly be happy when my dad is no longer here with us in physical form?
So, my question for my dad is, why did it take your death for me to be happy? And, how is life in Heaven? I love you dad!
Thanks,
Diana
Hi Diana,
I’m sorry for your loss with your dad’s passing and I’m thrilled it seemed to be the catalyst for what sounds like an amazing spiritual journey.
It’s completely natural to feel the gamut of emotions you describe ranging from sorrow to elation. We all process grief differently and how it shows up is perfect for us as individuals.
Regarding your questions about how you can feel good when your father’s gone and why it took your dad’s death for you to experience happiness, my answer focuses on vibration.
We’re all eternal spirits (energy) attached to a body having a human experience. When our life is over, our human bodies die and the everlasting part of us, (our spirit), continues.
In each lifetime, we explore experiences that raise our vibrational level. This allows us to understand concepts that heretofore may not have made sense to us.
When your dad passed, what you experienced, raised your vibrational level. And since his death, you’ve continued to raise your vibrational level, access and comprehend more complex concepts that allow you to be in alignment with your spirit, attract divine guidance, and live a more abundant, joyful, life.
It’s like diving into the deep end of a pool. If you can’t swim, you probably won’t think of being in deep water because it’s too scary. So, you go into the shallow water, wade to your waist, then to your shoulders, learn how to tread water, and eventually swim. Then, equipped with these skills, you resonate with the idea of diving into deep water and easily do it.
At this point, your spirit has expanded enough to access this new concept of easily living a joyful life regardless of what’s happening around you. Everything is unfolding perfectly. Trust that and continue to follow where you’re led. If it feels good, take action. If not, investigate and find out if your hesitation is based in a real or fake fear.
Hope this helps clarify things for you.
P.S. – Your dad said to let you know life in Heaven is amazing and he loves you back!