Eva-Christine from Kristiansand, Norway, asked:
Hello Dear Julie,
I’ve been wondering:
Can you still be a good person, living your life purpose and on the right path, if you choose to cut contact with your biological family?
I had a difficult childhood and adolescence, and much of my early life felt like survival. Over the years I’ve worked on myself a lot, and my life is quite good now.
I’m 50, and about a year or two ago I reduced contact with my father, stepfamily, and brother to almost zero. My mother and sister have also chosen to cut contact with me. I do, however, have a loving relationship with my daughter.
Sometimes I wonder if a soul that has evolved should be able to maintain relationships even with dysfunctional family members. Yet in my case, life feels healthier and more peaceful without those connections, at least as far as I can see right now.
I haven’t seen a question like this on your blog, so I hope you might consider mine.
Love,
Eva
Hi Eva,
Thank you for sharing such a thoughtful question. Many people struggle with this after growing up in difficult family dynamics.
Yes, you can absolutely be a good person and living your life purpose even if you choose to limit or end contact with biological family members.
Souls don’t come to Earth to maintain relationships at any cost. We come to learn, grow, and evolve. Sometimes family members teach us important lessons, especially about healthy boundaries.
Setting boundaries isn’t a spiritual failure. Often, it’s a sign of spiritual maturity.
The healing work you’ve done and the loving relationship you have with your daughter show that you’re breaking old cycles and creating something healthier.
You can still honor your family by wishing them well from a distance.
What matters most is choosing what brings you safety and peace.
Hugs,
Julie
