Carly from Stuart, FL, asked:
Hi Julie,
I’m currently in a serious committed relationship with a man I love (John) and I cannot seem to get past a former “situationship” with a man named Josh.
Josh and I had a very brief relationship but it was wild, crazy, and passionate, and was as if our souls connected. Circumstances didn’t allow us to be together.
It’s been almost four years now, but somehow this fling with Josh is still sticking around and is connected to me energetically. I dream about him and the next day I’ll have a message from him. It seems we are still on each other’s minds, and our hearts are still connected. Although Josh is in a relationship, he’s made it known that he feels this nagging too.
Can you tell me what this is? Is there some sort of past life or other connection between Josh and me? Or, is this simply anxiety over what could have been?
Please help me, it eats at me every single day.
Thank you so much, you are such a beautiful light in this world.
Carly
Hi Carly,
Thanks for your question. It’s one many of us can relate to.
Are you and Josh soulmates? Absolutely. You’ve been together in 435 lifetimes playing a variety of roles, not just lovers. By the way, you’re also soulmates with your current beau John.
The concept of just one “soulmate” being your eternal romantic partner is a myth and has been crafted over the years by playwrights, movies, and the entertainment and publishing industries because it sells.
In reality, everyone with whom you cross paths whether they be a parent, sibling, colleague, friend, or enemy, is a soulmate.
It has become apparent to me, in working with thousands of clients over the years, that everyone’s spirit/soul incarnates to explore a multitude of experiences. A semblance of an experience can present itself in many subsequent lifetimes in order for us to explore it from different perspectives.
For example, perhaps Josh was your mother in a past life who died birthing you, and, in this lifetime, you shared unrequited love. In both instances, you loved each other and couldn’t be together. Same basic script with different circumstances.
Now, how to get over Josh. It’s fairly common to obsess over a former love for a period of time and can become problematic when it continues and has the potential to disrupt your life.
In her book Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love, psychologist Lisa Bobby, PhD, says, “Cutting emotional ties can feel almost like ending an addiction. Getting over an ex can be like kicking a chemical habit.”
From what you mentioned above, it seems you may be in the ex-love addiction quagmire and may want to begin to break free of Josh by reading Dr. Bobby’s book. That, and by immediately blocking Josh from your cell phone.
Hope this helps.