Mary Anne from Sunderland, MA, asked:
Hi Julie,
I’m currently reading your Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This Life Into The Next book, and I’m loving every page. Your dedication to serving others through your experiences is truly inspiring.
I have a question I assume you’ve encountered before: Not all mothers can provide the love and support their children need, often due to their own trauma. The thought of my abusive mother orchestrating my soul’s passing is deeply unsettling and triggers fear in me. She was neither physically nor emotionally safe. Can our souls choose the ancestral entourage that attends our death?
I’ve always felt closer to my father and paternal grandmother, so I’d prefer they guide me through this transition.
I appreciate your wisdom on this subject.
Thank you,
Mary Anne
Hi Mary Anne,
Thank you for your kind words about Angelic Attendants. I’m glad it’s resonating with you.
Your question touches on a deeply personal and sensitive topic, and it’s one I’ve encountered many times. It’s completely understandable to feel uneasy about the idea of your mother, who caused you harm, being part of your soul’s transition process.
In my experience, all spirits embody pure love, free from the personality traits they had in life. When we pass, our earthly personalities—whether they were nurturing or abusive—remain with our physical bodies.
To help put this into perspective, imagine life as a movie where each of us plays a role that contributes to the growth of our souls. Some roles are kind and supportive, while others are challenging and painful. It’s possible that in a past life, you, your mother, and your maternal grandmother played very different roles, perhaps even reversing the dynamic of abuser and victim.
The key takeaway is that when we experience what we don’t want, it helps us clarify and create what we do want in our lives. This could mean that your soul has chosen to shape a life that completely contrasts with the one you knew as a child.
Moreover, I’ve often heard from many spirits that once we return to Heaven, the complexities and hardships of our earthly lives will make perfect sense. You may even find yourself appreciating your mother’s role in your soul’s journey, understanding it as a catalyst for your growth.
Please feel free to share a free digital and audiobook download of Angelic Attendants with anyone who might find comfort and insight from it.
P.S. – When you’re dying, your dad, paternal grandmother, and the spirits of many other deceased loved ones and pets will also be there to welcome you to Heaven!