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Earth Angel

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Kitty from Rockport, TX, asked:

Hi Julie,

Ivan is an 87-year-old man who lives alone and for whom I have been cleaning for the past 7 years.

He has become my unofficially adopted grandfather and has no family except for a granddaughter in Michigan. They don’t seem to have a relationship. My daughter, her dad and I are all Ivan has.

Ivan was diagnosed with lung cancer about 6-7 months ago but has refused medical treatment. He claims he’s ready to go but I’m not so sure that’s true because he’s made comments about being afraid to go.

I just feel he doesn’t want the trouble of all the doctor’s appointments and medication side effects. Who really would, right (!?), especially at 87 years old.

Since his diagnosis, Ivan has become quite confused. He forgets dates, to pay his bills, and conversations we’ve just had. In addition, he’s not bathing or eating much anymore.

I would just like to know which stage of death he is in. He is very demanding and it’s exhausting us all but still we take care of him.

It’s apparent he doesn’t need to be living alone but he has told me that his wishes are to die in his home. I have not called Adult Protective Services because I don’t want to interfere with what he wants.

What should I do? Should I call or let fate work it out?

Currently on chapter 6 of your Angelic Attendants book and it’s so helpful. Thanks Julie.

Sincerely,

Kitty

Hi Kitty,

You are what I call an “earth angel” for your devotion and care of Ivan. Bless you!

He is currently in Phase 9 of the Twelve Phases of Transition®.

That means his spirit is out of his body and is attached to the top of his head in a bubble configuration. He is surrounded by angels and the spirits of deceased loved ones and pets.

Ivan tells me he is ready to go, isn’t in much pain, and just needs “to get on with it”.

My advice is to call in a Hospice agency for assistance.

Ivan’s Medicare insurance should cover the cost and the hospice staff can help with bathing, end-of-life care, and allowing him to pass in his home.

Sending big hugs ~

Julie

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Organ Donor Transitions

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Kristin from Phoenix, AZ, asked:

Hi Julie,

Does a person enter their next life when they are brain dead/legally dead?

For example, they might be kept alive just to harvest organs, but their brain activity is long gone.

I’ve been recently thinking about someone like Anne Heche the actress. News reports said she was dead even though her organs were still being harvested.

Thank you,

Kristin

Hi Kristin,

What a great question!

It has been my experience that as long as a person’s body is being kept alive, their spirit is still attached to the top of their head. (Please see my Twelve Phases of Transition® chart for details.)

Regarding organ donors, interestingly enough, I was asked the same question last weekend when I spoke at the Helping Parents Heal conference in Phoenix with 1,000 attendees who had lost a child.

I recently experienced this situation with my beloved brother-in-law Regis, who died last fall and was an organ donor.

Regis was removed from the ventilator (life support), declared dead, and then put back on the ventilator so his organs could be harvested and help others live. What a gift to the recipients!

When I did an instant replay of his time of death, Regis’ spirit separated from his body and was escorted to Heaven by angels. (Again, please see my Twelve Phases of Transition® chart for details.)

In addition, as I awoke the next morning, the first thing I saw were the spirits of my late sister Joan (who died in 2010) and her husband Regis sitting on my bedroom couch holding hands and giggling.

Although Regis’ organ donation procedures went on for a couple more days, his spirit had transitioned and he was already reunited with my sister Joan in Heaven.

Hope this answers your questions.

 

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Evil People

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Don from Ontario, Canada, asked:

Dear Julie:

I understand that the 12 phases of transition are experienced by most.

What happens to those who commit acts of evil or harm to others?

Are they separated from others in the afterlife because of their low energy field or are they brought into the afterlife like all others?

Many mediums say different things.

What is the truth?

Thanks,

Don

Hi Don,

What a great question. It’s one I’m often asked.

Everyone is a spirit connected to a body having a human experience and all spirits are pure love.

The human side of us has what we call personality traits, and those characteristics stay with the body when someone dies.

So, every person goes through the Twelve Phases of Transition®, a sequence of events involving angels and the spirits of deceased loved ones and pets at the end of their lives.

And, everyone’s spirit transitions into a non-physical state, often called Heaven.

All acts, whether they be judged by us humans as good or evil, are seen purely as neutral human experiences by spirit.

Hope this clarifies things for you.

To learn more about what happens when someone dies, please read my book Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This Life Into The Next.

 

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Powerful Death Energy

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Stephanie from Gravois Mills, MO, asked:

Hi Julie,

I just got your book and I’m super excited to start reading it. I’m also considering enrolling in your class.

Here’s a question I hope you can answer so that I may be able to positively interpret my loved one’s passing.

Ok, so, during transition, after weeks of lingering, two people were together in the death bed.

The visitor had her hands beneath the dying person, as in a gentle cradle position, praying for this person to find peace and the prayer repeats itself, almost becomes a chant.

Suddenly, a euphoria overcame the person praying and by now, the family had joined in behind her and they were all praying together.

Next, the dying woman opened her eyes, and looked straight into the eyes of the one holding her. At that moment, there was a sudden burst of energy through the holder’s head, abdomen, arms and hands, and the dying person was gone.

The visiting woman fell over as the passage of energy literally wracked right through her like a bolt of electricity and then it was all over.

Can you explain what happened?

Thanks,

Stephanie

Hi Stephanie,

Wow, what an experience that must have been for you and all of those present!

Most of us understand the concept that everything, including our bodies, is made of energy.

Furthermore, given, as Einstein so eloquently put it, “Energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another”, the dying person’s energy (spirit) had to go somewhere when it transitioned.

In their research paper, Energy Field Changes Approaching and During the Death Experience, authors Susan Peck, PhD, Gail Course, and Der-Fa Lu, PhD, state, “The concept of the presence of electromagnetic fields underlying the pattern and organization of biological systems is not new and has been a basic tenet of medical systems such as traditional Chinese medicine and Ayurvedic medicine for centuries.”

The researchers went on to say, “Consistent with reports in the literature, patterns of changes in the biofield observed during the dying process included the biofield decreasing in size and intensity from the feet upward, and chakras closing or reducing activity, from the root to the crown as the person moved closer to death. The energy field moved up and outward from the crown with death.”

Based on your account, since your friend’s hand was connected to the dying person’s body, she was able to feel when their spirit left their body. I believe the dying person’s energy engulfed a space including and adjacent to their body and your friend happened to be in that space.

In phase nine of what I describe as the Twelve Phases of Transition®, a vortex forms above the dying person’s head and assists their spirit in exiting from their body.

It has been my experience this vortex has an upward pull, is normally very powerful, and can differ in strength with each person’s death experience.

In addition, many of us have experienced the vibration generated from fervent prayer or musical worship in a group of people. Chanting, Gospel, and other genres of music have created a sometimes-euphoric feeling among participants since the beginning of time.

I believe your friend was able to feel the power of prayer and the vortex as their loved one passed.

This all seems like an amazing parting gift from the person who died, one that validates the “we’re all made of energy” concept for your friend, the others present, and all who read this story.

For more information about how our spirit leaves our body at the end of life, please read or listen to my book Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This Life Into The Next.

 

 

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A Father’s Wishes

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April from Charleston, WV, asked:

Hi Julie,

My father transitioned on August 12, 2021, after losing the ability to swallow and enduring nearly two weeks without food or water. Thankfully, my sister and I were able be at his side through the whole process, something for which I will be forever grateful.

His ex-wife was his caretaker and had power of attorney over his affairs. My sister and I are the only beneficiaries in his Will.

Our relationship with his ex-wife has always been rocky, and we do not trust her to fulfill our father’s wishes. We don’t know where his assets are located so Dad’s ex-wife is the one who must supply that information.

Because of all this, we have decided to pursue a full probate but don’t want to create unnecessary strife if it isn’t what our father would want. 

Any guidance you can offer would be so very appreciated.

Thank you!

April

Hi April,

My condolences on the loss of your father.

Thanks for submitting your question. Unfortunately, it’s one grieving families too often face.

The American Bar Association (ABA) says, “Probate is the formal legal process that gives recognition to a Will and appoints the executor or personal representative who will administer the estate and distribute assets to the intended beneficiaries.”

In order to get some more guidance for you, I consulted with my dear friend Diana, a retired judge. She said, “Probate can be acrimonious and costly but fruitful if someone is truly hiding assets. So, the real question is, do they believe she would/is hiding assets? If yes, then probate can force an investigation and hopefully disclosure as the court has the ability to order an independent investigation.” 

Having said all that, I connected with your dad’s spirit and asked him for his opinion. Here’s a summary of our conversation:

– Is it in your daughters’ your best interest to pursue full probate to settle your estate? He said YES.

– Is your ex-wife attempting to hide some of your assets? He said YES.

– Is it worth the legal fees your daughters will incur to pursue full probate on your estate? He said YES.

– Do you suggest your daughters pursue full probate in settling your estate. Again, he said YES.

Your story is a reminder that everyone, even people without assets, needs a Will. Add to that a Living Will, Durable Power of Attorney and Medical Power of Attorney. It’s a gift of love to make the settling of your estate as easy as possible on your loved ones.

Hope these suggestions and answers from your father help you decide what to do.

 

 

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Educate and Comfort

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Shari from Columbus, OH, asked:

Hi Julie,

I read your book Angelic Attendants and it is excellent!

I was by my mother’s side when she transitioned 21 years ago and it was actually a beautiful experience.

I sense her around me all the time and her spirit even showed up in a picture taken of me and my family four years after she passed away! I will treasure this picture forever.

For years, I’ve been wanting to reach out to other people to comfort them after their loved one has passed and let them know their spirit can still be present with them even when they are no longer in the physical world. Alas, I have no idea how to do this.

Any suggestions?

Thank you for taking time to read and answer my question.

Sincerely,

Shari

Hi Shari,

Thanks for your kind comments and for reading Angelic Attendants.

Love the story about your mom’s spirit showing up in your family photo several years after she passed. What a great example of your mother letting you know she’s around you.

Regarding your desire to help comfort and educate those who’ve lost a loved one, I have several suggestions:

– Volunteer with a hospice organization.

– Get involved in grief support groups at local churches, hospitals, senior centers, and online.

– Gift a book on the topic. Two favorites are my Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This Life Into The Next and Death Is But A Dream by Christopher Kerr, MD, PhD.

– Send people a link to my interview with Dr. Chris Kerr. It’s enlightening, heartwarming, and validates how spirits surround end-of-life patients.

– Consider taking my Angelic Attendant Training and learn to telepathically communicate with the dying person and tell how close to passing they are by identifying the Twelve Phases of Transition®. The information you’ll receive can be enormously helpful and comforting to the family.

Hope you find these ideas thought-provoking.

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Transition Phase Reversal

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Kayla from Minneapolis, MN, asked:

Hi Julie,

Can someone start to leave their body, to transition, and then have it be reversed with a healing? Not reversed with a healing but can they reverse through and completely out of the Phases of Transition?

I’ve read your book Angelic Attendants recently and was curious about that because of my own experience of feeling like I had started to transition in the past while I was so unwell in 2016.

I also have your books for kids and read them to my nephews.

Thanks,

Kayla

Hi Kayla,

What a great question!

Thanks for reading my books and for sharing Angel Messages For Kids and Angel Messages For Dogs with your nephews.

It has been my experience in working with countless families going through a loved one’s final days that dying people can and sometimes do reverse course in the Twelve Phases of Transition™. This isn’t necessarily due to a healing, rather, it’s because the person decides they want to experience more of their human life before they die.

Our spirits are the power source for our bodies which is why when our spirit detaches from our body at the time of death, our body stops working.

As someone is dying and in one of the Phases of Transition, I’m unable to do an energetic healing on them because their spirit is out of their body and attached to the top of their head in a bubble configuration (see illustrations). I equate trying to scan a dying person to trying to read an x-ray in a pitch-black room without electricity. In both instances, I’m unable to see inside the body due to a lack of power/electricity.

Hope this clarifies things for you.

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Alzheimer’s Care Decision

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Kathleen from Door County, WI, asked:

Hello Julie,

I’ve been living with and caring for my dad for over 8 years. This also includes caring for my mom who died of cancer six years ago.

As you can imagine, I am very exhausted and conflicted about placing him in a home. I tried twice. It didn’t work out and broke my heart.

I never thought my dad would live this long without my mom and I’m now realizing he could live for another ten years.

I’ll soon need to come to terms with placing him in a home because I really need to start living my life again. I don’t even know what that will look like because I’ve really lost myself in all of this care giving. 

Can you please tell me what Phase of Transition my dad’s in and if he has any helpful messages for me?

Thank You.

Kathleen

Hi Kathleen,

Good heavens Girl, you deserve a medal of honor for being such an amazing daughter and caregiver.

In order to get some information for you, I energetically connected to you and from you to your dad.

He has begun the dying process and is currently in Phase 4 of the Twelve Phases of Transition. This means his spirit is out of his body and attached to the top of his head. It looks like a bubble containing the words or thoughts of a character in a cartoon. The spirits of your dad’s deceased parents are at his feet and anchor a horseshoe of angels that surround him.

When I asked your dad if he was ready to go, he said “yes”.

When I asked your dad if he was in pain, he also said “yes”.

When I asked him what he needed, he said he needed to see your mother.

Regarding his “seeing your mother” statement, it’s common for people to see deceased loved ones in dreams and/or visions at the end of life and I believe this will happen to and comfort your dad.

To learn more about this phenomenon, consider reading Death Is But A Dream by Christopher Kerr, MD, PhD. In his research, Dr. Kerr, the CEO of a large hospice and palliative care center in Buffalo, NY, shows how prevalent and most importantly comforting, dreams and visions are to dying patients.

Death is But A Dream discusses university-based research that mirrors what I describe in my book Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This Life Into The Next, namely, angels and deceased loved ones greet us and lead us into paradise (heaven).

As for transferring your dad to a care facility, I “get” it’s in your and his best interest to do so. I also “get” it’s in your best interest to consider a hospice or palliative care facility. In addition to his getting taken care of by medical professionals, you should be able to visit him there.

Dartmouth-Hitchcock Medical Center has put together a terrific fact sheet entitled, “Should I put my relative with Alzheimer’s disease in a nursing home?” It’s full of thought-provoking questions designed to help you make the best decision for your dad and yourself.

Hope you find this information helpful.

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Lost My Baby

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Amber from Denver, CO, asked:

Hi Julie,

My son passed away not long after I was hit by a semi-truck. He was a full-term fetus. My placenta abrupted so the umbilical cord was starving him.

Afterwards, the doctors said they thought I was further along in my pregnancy which meant I should have been watched more carefully and been induced.

I was in an abusive relationship and my husband abandoned me after not showing up for my son’s delivery. He is convinced it was my fault and I wonder if I could have done better.  I’m having a hard time not blaming myself. 

Am I the reason he isn’t here? Is my baby with my deceased grandmother? Why did this happen?

Thanks.

Amber

Hi Amber,

I am so sorry to hear about you losing your baby. I can’t even imagine the pain you have experienced in dealing with this tragedy.

The Cleveland Clinic says, “Placental abruption is the premature separation (abruption) of the placenta from the uterus before childbirth.” The Clinic goes on to say, “Placental abruption can be life-threatening to the baby and sometimes to the mother. It can lead to premature birth, low birth weight, blood loss in the mother, and in rare cases, it can cause the baby’s death.”

First and foremost, yes, your baby son’s spirit is with your grandmother’s spirit and they’re both around you all the time.

Second and just as important, we all (even fetuses) decide when, where, how and who’s with us when we pass. We have no control of when or how someone else dies. All funeral directors have many stories about families who held a vigil with their loved one as they lay dying only to have the person pass while they were left alone for a few minutes.

You ask why this happened. The best explanation I can give you is because your son’s spirit chose to experience what it was like to die right before he was to be born. Although it’s hard for us to wrap our human minds around that concept, I’ve heard it countless times.

Since we live many lives, perhaps your son was a parent, grandparent, sibling, etc. who lost a full-term baby in a past life. And perhaps his spirit chose this lifetime to gain perspective from what it was like to be the baby who wasn’t born.

Please know your baby son was surrounded by angels and the spirits of deceased loved ones when he died. More information about what happens as we pass can be found in my book Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This Life Into The Next.

I hope you find some comfort in my responses to your questions.

Sending big hugs your way.

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