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My Dog Harvey

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Chris from New Orleans, LA asked:

“Julie, I had to put down my dog Harvey a couple of years ago. He had cancer, stopped eating and was slowly starving himself. Harvey was unlike any dog I have ever known, so much so that I called him my alien-dog. He was intuitive, once lying across my torso when I had a stomach ache. He could sense what I was about to do before I did it. And yet he could be a doofus (and I say that with affection). He lived with me and my other two dogs, and he was the senior dog, yet the passive one.

I was told by my vet that I should put him down, that the deterioration from starving would not be a pretty death. I agonized over the right time, and I finally chose the day, asking the vet and his assistant to come to my house. Just before they arrived, Harvey got up and went to the door and wanted to go out and walk around. He never was in a real state of frailty, but was like a beautiful ghostly skeleton walking. I was torn. Was this his courageous goodbye, or was he telling me he was not ready? 

When the vet arrived, he said I should proceed, and I listened to him. But I know that I ignored my own intuition (the same intuition Harvey had given to me), and therefore ignored Harvey’s wishes and put an end to his life when the decision was premature, when Harvey was not ready. 

Can you help me?”

 

Hi Chris,

First, I’m sorry for your loss.  The death of our pets can sometimes be as emotional as the loss of a loved one.

Second, I did an “instant replay” scan of Harvey at the time immediately preceding his death. His spirit was out of his body (like a dying human’s; see chart at http://bit.ly/1KrI1IO), which meant he was dying. He told me he was in a lot of pain, was ready to go, and wanted to go outside to do his business so he wouldn’t soil your floor when he died.

He also said although he didn’t want to leave you,  he was grateful you put him down. He wanted you to know his spirit is always with you and that he misses marshmallows.

Blessings, Julie

By Julie Ryan|2015-04-29T01:32:19+00:00April 29th, 2015

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Dad’s Balance Disorder

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Julie from New Orleans, LA, asked:

“What is the cause of my father’s balance disorder and what is the cure?  Thank you.”

Hi Julie,

I believe your dad is over-medicated. I suggest researching his medications and their potential side effects, then consulting with his doctor.

Blessings, Julie

By Julie Ryan|2015-05-12T19:05:07+00:00May 12th, 2015|

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Relationship and Career Guidance

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Serena from Ft. Lauderdale, FL, asked:

“I’ve recently become very confused over a relationship I have with a boy. I feel as though I am being led on and being taken advantage of emotionally and giving more into this relationship than I should. I am just curious if I should keep giving my all into this and trying to make it work, or if I should just stop trying. Also, I am having trouble with what I want to do career wise, I’m not sure if I am on the right track, it would just be nice to have some extra guidance.”

Hi Serena,

Regarding your relationship with your boyfriend, I don’t get it’s in your best interest to continue dating him. Follow your gut. How does it feel when you’re with him? Is your questioning the relationship a red flag? Ask your intuition, “Is it in my best interest to …” and follow your own internal guidance.

As for your career, pick something that interests you and something you really enjoy, then find a way to monetize it. I get it could be something in the food services industry. Again, ask your intuition. It works with any and every question and will always steer you in the right direction.

Blessings, Julie

By Julie Ryan|2015-05-12T19:16:29+00:00May 12th, 2015

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Brotherly Advice

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Vickie from Stockholm, Sweden, asked:

“Lately I’ve been worried about my brother. Although he is older, he struggles with basic things such as school and finding a path he feels dedicated and excited about. It makes me worry that he is not happy with himself or his life path. Will he find a path that he will be content with?

Also, I am currently putting effort into an aspect of my life that has already been set up to not go very far. Although it feels rewarding right now, I am worried that it will end up being completely pointless in the long run and if the rewarding feeling is mutual or if it’s only on my side.”

Hi Vickie,

Your brother’s struggles are his way of figuring out what he wants to do. We all have our own path that’s perfect for us even if it doesn’t look like it to our family and friends. He’ll find his sweet spot. Focus on yourself and your aspirations.

As for you, pay attention to how things feel and focus on the ones that are pleasurable. The feeling is mutual which is why it feels good to you. Trust that the next phase will be just as enjoyable. And it will be. Be open to the adventure. Often our lives turn out better than we can imagine.

Blessings, Julie

By Julie Ryan|2015-05-12T19:32:49+00:00May 12th, 2015

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Cause of Mother’s Death

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RC from New Orleans, LA, asked:

“My mother died in September 1990 at the age of 65. She fell and hit the corner of the cedar chest in her bedroom, and her death was not discovered for four days. How did my mother die? Did she suffer? Was there anything she wanted me to know?”

Hi RC,

My condolences on the loss of your mother.

Upon doing a replay of your mother’s death, I believe she died of a massive heart attack. She told me she didn’t suffer because she immediately went unconscious when she collapsed at the foot of the cedar chest. Your mom told me she chose to die unexpectedly because she didn’t want to burden you with having to take care of her. She also wanted you to know that her spirit is always with you watching over you.

Blessings, Julie

By Julie Ryan|2015-05-12T19:29:13+00:00May 12th, 2015

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My Dog Ate Chocolate

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Claire from Birmingham, AL, asked:

“My dog got into 100% cocoa powder and some cake mix today while he was alone at my house. Although he seems to be acting fine so far, do you think he’ll be okay?”

 

Hi Claire,

Your dog is fine although he may have a bit of a choco-sugar buzz for a while.

Blessings, Julie

 

By Julie Ryan|2015-05-17T20:42:06+00:00May 17th, 2015

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Problem With Car

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Patty from Oklahoma City, OK, asked:

“My car is making funny noises. What’s wrong with it? Will I make it to Dallas?”

 

Hi Patty,

I’m getting there’s something going on with your carburetor. Yes you’ll make it to Dallas. In the meantime, use high octane gas until you can get it into the shop.

Blessings, Julie

 

By Julie Ryan|2015-05-17T20:43:41+00:00May 17th, 2015

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Migraines

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Rhonda in Houston, TX, asked:

I have suffered from migraines my whole adult life. I have tried many, many, treatments and medications. What causes them? 

 

Hi Rhonda,

Migraines can be caused by a number of things including hormonal imbalances, allergic reactions to food or environments, overuse of antibiotics, and yeast overgrowth.

After doing a medical scan on you, I believe you have a systemic Candida yeast infection. If you Google Candida yeast infection, you’ll get lots of helpful information for a discussion with your doctor.

In the meantime, stay away from fermented foods like cheese, vinegars, wine, alcoholic beverages, breads, processed foods, and most of all sugar. The “yeasties” loooove sugar.

Once you get the “yeasties” under control, your migraines will cease.

Blessings, Julie

By Julie Ryan|2015-05-17T22:35:17+00:00May 17th, 2015

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Lack of Emotion

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Shannon from San Diego, CA, asked:

Throughout my life I’ve never really had much emotion. All of my friends call me emotionless because I don’t cry in sad movies, I’ve never liked a guy, I don’t fight with people. If I am ever sad or depressed I never show it to anyone, not even my closest friends. Why am I so out of touch with my emotions? Also I’ve always felt like I have had a bland life. Not that it’s a bad thing, because I genuinely appreciate everything my parents have done for me. It’s just nothing bad or tragic has happened nor anything spectacular. I don’t feel like I have any special qualities about myself or life.  I want to know if it’s bad that I feel this way or if I’m just taking everything for granted.

Hi Shannon,

You’re not out of touch with your emotions; you just don’t wear them on your sleeve for everyone to see. My guess is you either weren’t allowed to express your emotions as a child, or weren’t around people who did.

In addition, I don’t get that you take anyone or anything for granted. I get that you sincerely appreciate your life and loved ones. Your ability to remain calm is an extraordinary quality, one your friends most likely appreciate in you.

Having said all that, everything you mentioned about yourself is good. You are the one who controls your reaction to something. If you want to be more demonstrative, you will. In the meantime, all is well.

Blessings, Julie

By Julie Ryan|2015-05-17T22:39:25+00:00May 17th, 2015

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