Carli from Charleston, SC, asked:
Hi Julie,
My son is 8.5 years old and is still wetting the bed every night. It’s gotten to the point where he isn’t waking up at all, is peeing through mattress covers, and has even ruined his mattress. It’s pretty significant.
I’m a holistic practitioner and have tried so many different approaches, but I still can’t figure out what’s going on.
I would LOVE any insight, guidance, or support for him. At this point, it truly feels like it’s never going to end, and my heart hurts for him.
Thank you so much.
Carli
Hi Carli,
First, please know your son is not doing this consciously, and he’s not “behind.” Bedwetting at this age is much more common than most people realize, especially with deep sleepers and sensitive kids.
From a practical standpoint, nightly bedwetting is often connected to a nervous system that’s still maturing, very deep sleep cycles, constipation, food sensitivities, stress/anxiety the child may not even consciously recognize, low nighttime antidiuretic hormone production, or a bladder that hasn’t fully synchronized with brain signaling yet. Sometimes enlarged tonsils, mouth breathing, or sleep-disordered breathing can contribute too because the body stays in a dysregulated sleep state.
Energetically and spiritually, children who are highly sensitive often hold tension, emotions, or energetic overwhelm in the lower chakras, especially around safety, control, fear of disappointing others, or feeling emotionally “flooded.” Bedwetting can sometimes symbolize a nervous system that literally cannot “hold” everything it’s processing. Many intuitive children also sleep extremely deeply because their spirits are very active during sleep.
When I did an energetic scan on him (with his permission), it looked like there was a valve that wasn’t fully closing at night, allowing urine to flow while he was asleep. I watched an energetic healing occur where the valve was replaced, then tested to ensure it was functioning properly. It was.
A few things to consider on the human side of the equation:
- Evaluate constipation, even if he’s having bowel movements regularly
- Check for mouth breathing, snoring, enlarged tonsils, or sleep apnea tendencies
- Reduce evening fluids 1–2 hours before bed, especially sugary, caffeinated, carbonated, or chocolate drinks
- Wake him once before you go to sleep to retrain nighttime signaling
- Consider magnesium and nervous system support
- Use reassurance instead of frustration, because stress can intensify the cycle
- Help him feel emotionally safe discussing fears, school stress, pressure, embarrassment, or sensitivity
Spiritually, focus less on “fixing” him and more on helping his body feel safe. Kids often heal faster when the emotional charge around the issue softens.
Many children suddenly outgrow this almost overnight once the nervous system catches up. It can feel endless until it isn’t.
Hope this helps.
Hugs,
Julie
