Leanne from Auckland, New Zealand, asked:
Hi Julie,
I’d love it if you could answer a question about my beautiful cat Alfie. I had to put Alfie to sleep last year after he was hit by a car.
At the time, I was and am still completely heartbroken by his death and also feel extreme guilt for having him put to sleep.
Is Alfie ok where he is? Is he around me still? Does he know how much I love him? And does he forgive me for making the choice to put him to sleep?
Thank you so much for taking the time to answer my question.
Hi Leanne,
My condolences on the loss of Alfie. I love his name and the Burt Bacharach song “What’s It All About Alfie”.
So, in keeping with the song, I connected to Alfie through you and asked him what his being hit by a car was all about.
Alfie said he was ready to transition back into non-physical and he knew getting hit by a car was a quick way to get there.
He also said by euthanizing him, you did exactly what he wanted you to do. It helped him avoid unnecessary suffering.
Alfie wanted you to know that when he was alive, he felt (and still feels) very loved by you. Please know he is always around you and will be for the rest of your life.
Alfie told me you often think you hear him and you’re correct. You are hearing him. It’s how he lets you know he’s close by.
One last thing, Alfie showed me a scene of a kitten batting at a tea bag (or something that looks like it) dangling from a string. Perhaps it’s time for you to consider getting another cat.
Hope this information provides some comfort.