Jen from Portland, OR, asked:
Hi Julie,
I’m a mom of four whose kids are getting older and I’m beginning to dream about my life’s next chapter.
What should be such an exciting time is privately painful for me. I am plagued with indecision and insecurities which keep me feeling very stuck.
I am working on following what “feels” good but the pressure I put on myself is almost unbearable. This indecisiveness has been a lifetime pattern and it feels to me like a subconscious, energetic, or spiritual block.
Could you please scan my body to discover what might be the culprit? I am 53 years-old and I really want to elevate my vibration to march confidently on my path of purpose!
Thank you in advance — I appreciate all that you do!
Jen
Hi Jen,
As you’ve realized, new chapters in life can be both exciting and terrifying at the same time.
The good news, however, is that we can train our brains to minimize fear and maximize the enjoyment aspect of any situation.
Thoughts don’t have meaning unless we give it to them. And, unlike what most of are led to believe, thoughts don’t originate in our heads, rather, they are attracted to us based on what we’re thinking at any given moment.
Now, like everything else in our reality, thoughts have a vibration. They either feel good or bad. If they feel good, they’re most likely true. If, however, a thought feels bad, it’s always based in fear.
Anger, grief, jealousy, boredom, etc., are all examples of fear. The key is to figure out if the fear is real (called a rational fear) or imagined (irrational fear).
So, when you have a thought come into your head like I can’t do that job because (fill in the blanks), just ask yourself, “Is this going to kill me in the next two-minutes?”
If the answer is yes, change the conditions before you get hurt or killed. If the answer is no, then you’re suffering over an irrational fear that’s false. I call this technique the Two-Minute Rule™ and it works great.
When we identify fake fears, we can avoid losing clarity and prevent our bodies from going into fight or flight mode. This alone will enhance your decision-making abilities.
By the way, you don’t have any blocks or physical issues, only irrational fear that’s causing your indecisiveness.
Give the Two-Minute Rule™ a try. It’s free and convenient because it works anywhere your brain is, and your brain is usually with you wherever you go!