Sofia from Raleigh, NC, asked:
Hi Julie,
Thank you for this space to ask about my current body fatigue & pain.
What can I do to heal myself and feel energetic, youthful, vital, whole, pain free, joyful, have a luscious head of hair and express my beauty again?
Since my husband’s passing in 2019, I have taken on a lot of things that were not my choice and have felt anxious, overwhelmed, and put-upon by them.
I just want to feel even more alive and joyful than I did before his transition.
Please give me guidance.
Thank you so very much.
Sofia
Hi Sofia,
My sincere condolences on the passing of your husband.
All thoughts and emotions that feel bad are based in fear. Anger, grief, jealously, boredom, actual fear, etc., are all great examples of this concept.
Now, it’s important to remember that humans are hardwired for fear. It’s what keeps us alive.
The only challenge is, our bodies don’t know the difference between something that will actually harm us and something that’s just a stressful situation.
Whenever we feel fear, our bodies go into fight or flight, release cortisol and other stress hormones, and lose clarity. These chemicals also create inflammation, the root cause of any type of pain.
So, the next time you feel bad, just ask yourself the following question, “Will this kill me in the next two minutes”? It’ll be a yes or no answer.
If the answer is yes, that’ll be a rational (real) fear. Change the conditions before you’re hurt or even killed.
If however, the answer is no (and it will be 99% of the time), you know your emotions are based in an irrational fear and it’s false. You’re just using your imagination to envision something you don’t want.
Implement the Two-Minute Rule® and make it a habit. It’ll decrease your anxiety and stress levels and will help you live a life of abundance and joy.
For more information about and examples of this technique, please check out my new book, The Two-Minute Rule: The Key to an Amazing Life.