Finding Love

Falcon from Santa Fe, NM, asked:

Hi Julie,

I’ve had a series of bad relationships and I’m feeling hopeless. One resulted in a child. 

Do you think I’ll ever find the right person?

Thanks.

Falcon

Hi Falcon,

Thanks for your question. It seems appropriate as we approach Valentine’s Day.

My answer is ABSOLUTELY! I believe you can and will have a wonderful relationship!

Psychology Today suggests seven tips for finding love. They are:

1) Know what you want

2) Be prepared to invest time, effort and money

3) Know your value as a potential partner

4) Have self-awareness

5) Show your humor

6) Let friends help

7) Hold high standards for a relationship.

Sounds like good advice to me with the most important one being the first … know what you want.

Be very specific about the qualities you want in your mate. I’m not talking about how they look, rather, their personality traits like dependable, kind, funny, likes kids, etc.

In addition, refrain from thinking of or talking about all the negative things about your past partners. Instead, focus on what was positive about them and add what else you’d like. That good old law of attraction thing will bring you more of what you think about so make it benefit you.

Find five things a day to be grateful for. Certainly, your child is a gift. What else? Even if it’s basic items like the air you breathe, the sunlight you see, the heat in your home, the water you drink, and a car that works. Being grateful raises your vibration and feels good. In addition, it will help you attract people who are happy and feel good.

Lastly, know your life is unfolding perfectly. Every experience has given you the opportunity to grow and get clearer about your preferences. You can’t reach the top of a staircase without touching each step on the way up. Life is like a staircase. We need to go through experiences (steps) so we resonate with exactly what we want in order to realize it.

Good luck!