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Unraveling the Mysteries of Past Lives

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Matt from Randolph, WI, asked:

Hi Julie,

I am always fascinated by the many things I hear from you.

Could you explain something about current and past lives?

I get the idea that we reincarnate and can go back and look at many lives lived.

Is it one spirit in all? Is one a spirit, the others the soul? Something else?

I’d appreciate it if you would talk about this on your show so I can re-listen to it.

Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

Matt

Hi Matt,

I appreciate your curiosity about past lives. I too find this topic fascinating.

In my experience, each spirit or soul, which I use interchangeably, undergoes countless lifetimes in different incarnations.

During a past life scan, valuable information often comes forth, and interestingly, it can sometimes be verified through historical records. What I’ve observed is, each spirit maintains a consistent frequency throughout its various lifetimes. To tap into a past life, it’s similar to tuning into a specific frequency, much like adjusting your car radio to a particular station. It’s always the same spirit in each lifetime.

When seeking information about a previous life, setting the intention and focusing on a specific question, such as whether you were a teacher in a past life, can yield details about the time, place, and circumstances of that existence, often providing clarity about our current life.

In addition, there’s an intriguing aspect of past lives where some believe our spirit lives multiple lifetimes concurrently. While it’s challenging for me to fully grasp this concept, I acknowledge the possibility. I prefer not to dwell too deeply on this aspect and trust that we will gain a clearer understanding when we return to the spiritual realm.

I hope this explanation provides some clarity on the concept of past lives for you.

 

 

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Obsessed With Past Lover

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Carly from Stuart, FL, asked:

Hi Julie,

I’m currently in a serious committed relationship with a man I love (John) and I cannot seem to get past a former “situationship” with a man named Josh.

Josh and I had a very brief relationship but it was wild, crazy, and passionate, and was as if our souls connected. Circumstances didn’t allow us to be together.

It’s been almost four years now, but somehow this fling with Josh is still sticking around and is connected to me energetically. I dream about him and the next day I’ll have a message from him. It seems we are still on each other’s minds, and our hearts are still connected. Although Josh is in a relationship, he’s made it known that he feels this nagging too.

Can you tell me what this is? Is there some sort of past life or other connection between Josh and me? Or, is this simply anxiety over what could have been?

Please help me, it eats at me every single day.

Thank you so much, you are such a beautiful light in this world.

Carly

Hi Carly,

Thanks for your question. It’s one many of us can relate to.

Are you and Josh soulmates? Absolutely. You’ve been together in 435 lifetimes playing a variety of roles, not just lovers. By the way, you’re also soulmates with your current beau John.

The concept of just one “soulmate” being your eternal romantic partner is a myth and has been crafted over the years by playwrights, movies, and the entertainment and publishing industries because it sells.

In reality, everyone with whom you cross paths whether they be a parent, sibling, colleague, friend, or enemy, is a soulmate.

It has become apparent to me, in working with thousands of clients over the years, that everyone’s spirit/soul incarnates to explore a multitude of experiences. A semblance of an experience can present itself in many subsequent lifetimes in order for us to explore it from different perspectives.

For example, perhaps Josh was your mother in a past life who died birthing you, and, in this lifetime, you shared unrequited love. In both instances, you loved each other and couldn’t be together. Same basic script with different circumstances.

Now, how to get over Josh. It’s fairly common to obsess over a former love for a period of time and can become problematic when it continues and has the potential to disrupt your life.

In her book Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love, psychologist Lisa Bobby, PhD, says, “Cutting emotional ties can feel almost like ending an addiction. Getting over an ex can be like kicking a chemical habit.”

From what you mentioned above, it seems you may be in the ex-love addiction quagmire and may want to begin to break free of Josh by reading Dr. Bobby’s book. That, and by immediately blocking Josh from your cell phone.

Hope this helps.

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Wait For Love

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Bertha in Central Islip, NY, asked:

Hi Julie,

I love your podcast so much and although this question is silly, I just need some relief.

My boyfriend and I broke up this week and I’m heartbroken.

It wasn’t because of something bad, just that his job got very demanding. This caused him to be tired and stressed. He is also going to take classes and temporarily move away (from Long Island to Brooklyn). Since he can’t make us a priority, he feels it’s best for us to go our own ways.

He mentioned we can find each other in a few years when his job is more stable and he moves back to Long Island.

My question is, should I even entertain the idea of us getting back together?

Thank you for your input and for your show!

Bertha

Hi Bertha,

So sorry to hear you’re hurting after the breakup with your boyfriend. That’s something most of us go through multiple times in our lives and it’s never easy.

As for whether you should wait around for him with the hope his job becomes less demanding, he has more free time, and he moves back to Long Island, here are a few thoughts for you to ponder.

The old saying, “If you love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours. If not, it was never meant to be,” applies in your situation.

Psychology Today says, “What is behind this old saying? Some interpret it as a description of fate. Only fate can determine whether a relationship was meant to be. So, if you let someone go, they will come back if that’s your destiny.

For those of us who don’t believe in determinism, this explanation does not ring true. A better interpretation is that you cannot force someone to love you. You have to give them the freedom to choose.” I tend to agree with the shrinks.

As you may know, I’m a volunteer sorority advisor at the University of Alabama and have had countless chats with girls in your position who’ve recently broken up with their boyfriend.

My advice to them is the same I’m giving you. Just remember one four-letter word … NEXT! Who’s next?

Get on with your life and if you and your former boyfriend’s paths cross, see how you feel then. It’s common for people’s lives to unfold in ways that make what was once a match, not make sense anymore.

Lastly, when I asked Spirit’s guidance about whether it was in your best interest to wait for your former boyfriend, the answer i “got” was NO!

 

 

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Futile Relationship

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Meredith from Jackson, MS, asked:

Hi Julie,

How can I stop revisiting a friendship with someone who is not a good vibrational match for me?

I feel a deep and strong connection to him. It’s as if we have shared many past lives.

I find myself almost unable to stop seeking this person’s attention even when he causes an abrupt end to most communications.

Thanks for your insight.

Meredith

Hi Meredith,

When I first read your question, I thought of two songs by the English Rocker Robert Palmer. The first, released in 1986 is called “Addicted To Love” and the second “Simply Irresistible” followed in 1988. Both tunes seem to describe the relationship you’re experiencing with a man who doesn’t return your affection. And, although you haven’t come right out and said it, sounds like the strong connection you feel to this man has you believing you’re soulmates.

Despite the fact Merriam-Webster defines the word soulmate as, “A person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament”, literature and the entertainment industry have perpetuated the idea of a perfect soulmate for every person. This false belief can cause people to forgo wonderful potential life partners in the pursuit of the “one”. 

Many believe the soulmate concept originated in 360 BC when Plato wrote in The Symposium, “Love is born into every human being; it calls back the halves of our original nature together; it tries to make one out of two and heal the wound of human nature. Each of us, then, is a matching half of a human whole … and each of us is always seeking the half that matches him.”

I believe you are correct in your assumption about why you feel (as you describe) a deep and strong connection to this man. You have shared many lifetimes together, the last 87 lifetimes. No wonder your attraction is so intense.

Everyone we know is a soulmate to us. Our parents, siblings, children, and other family members along with friends, lovers, colleagues, and the checkout clerk at your local grocery store. Humans play different roles in each lifetime to experience something our spirit is exploring. That’s why we incarnate, to have a human experience as a creator. Just because someone is your soulmate, it doesn’t mean having them in your life will be beneficial or even enjoyable.

Having said all that, it sounds to me like this man doesn’t treat you very well. That in itself is a reason to forget about him and this futile relationship. Instead, focus on the characteristics you want in a partner and in doing that, you’ll attract someone who loves and cherishes you.

The author J.R.R. Tolkien, who was married to his wife Edith for 55 years put it best when he wrote, “The real soul-mate, is the one you are actually married to.”

 

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Follow The Yellow Brick Road

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Kate from Melbourne, Australia, asked:

Hello Julie from Australia!

Over the past few days I have been magically guided to your work and think you’re amazing.

I have felt an incredibly strong urge to send you a message to ask a question with the hope that you can help me. I’m 39, single, feel so incredibly lost in my life and don’t have a sense of purpose. 

I am not depressed or have any mental health issues and feel very in touch with my spiritual side yet I haven’t been able to figure out my path. 

Often, I feel like I’m on the verge of some sort of breakthrough or something really big is going to happen but I just never get there.

On top of all this, I’m wondering where my partner is. Every time I go on dates I meet people with qualities I like and then take all those qualities and try to put them together to find the right person. He still eludes me.

Sorry my question is so long-winded. I had this really big urge to reach out to you and I really hope you can connect with me. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.

Kindest regards,

Kate

Hi Kate,

Thanks for your kind words and question.

It sounds to me like you’re on exactly the right path in learning your life’s purpose and finding your life partner.

Most of us believe we’ll wake up one day and know what to do with our lives and hope Prince Charming will show up at about the same time. Good luck with that!

What usually happens is, we figure out our life’s purpose as we experience life events that help us realize what inspires us and creates joy in our lives.

Keep in mind, for over 600 million years as we’ve evolved, our brains have been hardwired for negative thinking in order to keep us safe. In fact, “negativity bias” is a well-studied concept in psychology circles. Professor John Cacioppo, PhD, while at The Ohio State University, did a study where he showed subjects pictures of pleasant (pizza), neutral (hair dryer) and negative (dead cat) things and then recorded the electrical activity in their brains as they looked at each photo.

Dr. Cacioppo concluded the brain reacts more strongly to stimuli it deems negative. In other words, there is a greater surge in brain electrical activity when confronted with something unpleasant. This means our attitudes are more heavily influenced by negative things including being hard on ourselves for not knowing our life’s purpose. Before we know it, our brains are in an endless negative loop and we’re miserable.

So, let’s pivot to what you can do to assist yourself in finding your mate and figuring out what brings you a sense of fulfillment.

First, do your best to form a habit of looking for how everything is happening FOR you. When you’re feeling a negative emotion, immediately go to a place of curiosity. How will this enhance my life? What will I learn? How will this play out?

Once you’re in a curious state, you’ll be inspired to think another thought. It’s the pattern of those inspirational thoughts that will lead you to find what interests you. And what interests you always leads to your life’s purpose.

This technique will also lead you to your life partner. Do I like his personality? How is spending time with him benefiting me? Does it make me happy? What characteristics would I prefer?

Do your best to stay neutral and refrain from judging people and events. Imagine you’re on the yellow brick road in the Wizard of Oz movie. As you head towards the Emerald City, different bricks will light up showing you the way. You may be inspired to step on a brick that will land you in a field of poppies or get chased by flying monkeys. The situation isn’t good or bad, it’s just an experience on your path to Oz (enlightenment).

Life is an adventure, enjoy the ride and remember, like Dorothy, you (like all of us) are wearing ruby slippers which give you all the magical powers you’ll ever need. Expect to be delighted along the way and you’ll create the life you desire.

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Secret Agent

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Suzy from Seattle, WA, asked:

Hi Julie!

My sister told me about your show and I was wondering if you’d be able to answer a question for me?  My husband and I have been having relationship problems and I want to know if he’s been faithful to me. 

There is one day, in particular, that I am questioning … Thursday, December 1, 2016 between 3 and 5pm.   Can you answer this for me?  I also wonder what our future holds. I don’t think he’s been honest with me the past year or so and I want to know if it’s worth thinking about all the time.

Can you tell me why he chooses to be dishonest with me? Is he afraid of how I will react or is it more of a psychological issue? What can I do to help him? He just seems to feel so comfortable lying to me.  

Thanks.

Hi Suzy,

When I asked if your husband has been faithful to you, I got a NO. But, when I asked the more specific question … Has Suzy’s husband had sexual relations with any other women while he’s been married to Suzy, I also got a NO. Remember, spirits are very literal so we need to be as specific as possible when asking them for information and guidance. Bottom line, I believe he has indeed been faithful to you.

With regards to December 1st between 3-5pm, I got he was having a drink with guy friends.

I also got he lies to you to keep you from being upset. He loves you and feels like you’re very controlling. He wants to make the relationship work and wants you to back off a bit and not question his every move.

I believe your marriage has a great chance of succeeding long term if you want it to. Focus on and be grateful for all of the good things about your husband. As soon as a negative thought about him enters your mind, immediately switch it to something positive. Make it a habit. With practice you’ll be amazed at how automatic it becomes. You may even want to write 3 things you appreciate about him every day in a journal. That way, if you become angry at him, you can read it and realize what’s important.

If you choose to try this technique, you have a wonderful opportunity to make him feel appreciated and possibly have him do the same for you.

Good luck!

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Jordanian Romance

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Wafa from Amman, Jordan, asked:

Hi Julie,

I have strong feelings towards a guy and I want to know if it is mutual or not?

Thank you!

Hi Wafa,

In order to get some spiritual guidance for you, I asked the following questions. All are prefaced with … At this moment in time …

1) Is the guy for whom Wafa has strong feelings interested in a romantic relationship with her? I got a YES.

2) Will Wafa have a romantic relationship with this man? I got a YES.

3) Is it in Wafa’s best interest to be in a romantic relationship with this man? I got a YES.

4) Is it in Wafa’s best interest to be in a long-term romantic relationship with this man? I got a NO.

Keep in mind, this information is probable not certain. It has the potential to change based on an unlimited number of variables. 

An example of this could be the long-term relationship answer. It may be that neither you nor he (nor both of you) aren’t interested in a long-term commitment right now but may be after you’ve dated for a while.

It seems you have a good chance to be in at least a short-term romantic relationship with this man.

Enjoy!

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Soul Mate Search

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Andre from Lagoa, Portugal, asked:

Will I find my soul mate?

Hi Andre,

Yes you will. In fact, you actually have … many times.

Most of us believe there is but one perfect person intended to be our life partner. That premise is false. It’s an entertainment industry concept concocted to sell movies, records, and books.

The truth is, the people who surround us are our soul mates. They’re our parents, grandparents, siblings, friends, and acquaintances.

We are eternally connected to everyone we currently know and anyone who has ever been in our lives. And, we interact with them in multiple lifetimes.

Our parents could have been our children, spouses or friends. Our boss might have been our employee. Perhaps our teachers were our students. You get the idea.

Now, as for your finding a romantic soul mate, the answer to that question is also YES.

In order to do that, get involved in activities you enjoy. Consider volunteering for a charitable organization or joining a group of like-minded people (like a book or hiking club).

Be sure to spread the word you’re looking for someone special. Ask people if they know anyone they think you should meet. Include parents and grandparents in the equation. They’re sometimes your best match-makers.

Most of all, have fun with the process!

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Kismet

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Chester from Sheffield, South Yorkshire, England, asked:

Hi Julie,

I met a guy named Nathan a couple years back quite by chance while on vacation and completely fell for him. At the time it did appear he felt the same way. It was strange because I felt a deep connection with him as if it was meant to happen. 

Back in the UK, we live at opposite ends of the country and although we have constantly stayed in touch, he doesn’t seem quite as in to me as he used to be, so I started to convince myself I had imagined everything. Still though, whenever I tried to forget Nathan and move on, signs of him would pop up, either in the form of out of the blue communication or in some other coincidental way. It made me wonder if someone was trying to tell me something.

This year, I returned to the same vacation spot – at a completely different time of the year – and lo and behold, Nathan had booked the exact same date and duration as I had, arriving and leaving on exactly the same day. We had no discussion of this prior, it just happened, and again, we re-bonded and had a wonderful two weeks.

Since that time, Nathan has invited me to spend the Christmas period with him and his family (which I accepted).

Can you provide insight into this relationship? Perhaps contact my deceased grandmother to get her “feelings” on the matter? Is he really into our relationship or am I imagining it? Am I just wasting my time?

Lastly, the obligatory gushing part – I am a huge fan of your show and love what you do. I know a lot of people who do very similar things to what you do but none articulate it in such a personable and knowledgeable way as you. You’re a total gem, and long may you continue to provide peace, comfort and guidance to those who seek your help.

Thanks for your guidance.

Hi Chester,

Thank you for your kind comments about my show and me. They touched my heart and made my weekend!

As for your question, I wanted to get back with you quickly since you’re making holiday plans.

Instead of asking your grandmother, I asked the universe (which includes God, spirits, angels, and deceased loved ones, etc.) for guidance. The reason I do this is because I have found asking just one deceased person a question can elicit a response based only on that spirit’s opinion. And, that opinion isn’t necessarily what’s best for the person wanting the information. Over the years I’ve found that by asking the Universe a question, it encompasses all of the many beneficial scenarios that we humans don’t have the capacity to envision.

So, I asked the following two questions:

At this moment in time …

Is it in Chester’s best interest to spend the holidays with Nathan and his family? I got a “YES”.

Is Nathan as smitten with Chester as Chester is with Nathan? I also got a “YES”.

Keep in mind, those answers are predicated with “at this moment in time” because they pertain to future events (well at least the holidays with Nathan’s family question does). As you know, future events have yet to happen and will involve a lot of variables that can affect outcome. This is where “free will” and a multitude of other occurrences come in to play. Anytime we talk about something in the future, although it may be a probability, it’s never a certainty.

Having said all that, we can get more detailed with a private consult if you wish. We can also get specific advice from your deceased grandmother at that time. I frequently have conversations with people in Europe. Skype and the use of a UK (or other country) conference call number work great for that.

In the meantime, have an amazing holiday season!

Hugs,

Julie

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